Posted on Jan 28, 2019

Marci Wise, M.A. Christian Counselor

Do you often find yourself in unfulfilling relationships despite doing everything you can for your partners?

Are you sometimes truly surprised by how your partner is treating you?

Does it feel like you’re the only one trying or making sacrifices in the relationship?

If these questions resonate with you, then there might be an element of codependence in your relationships. Here’s the tricky part, true codependent behavior is often deeply ingrained through learning those behaviors in early, somewhat dysfunctional, family relationships. Since it’s all we’ve ever known, these behaviors can seem perfectly normal to us. That makes the moment that the blinders come off – and we recognize ourselves getting caught up in these hurtful patterns – often quite shocking.

On the positive side, falling prey to these behaviors also most often means that we’re caring and helpful individuals – and we all know the world could use more people like that.

However, the secret to using our empathic superpowers in a productive way is through setting healthy boundaries. If that phrase – setting healthy boundaries – seems foreign to you, then speaking with a counselor could be life-changing. Deeper exploration can illuminate a greater understanding of the causes of the behavior, and counseling can also provide tools and techniques to help us breakout of self-sabotaging relationship patterns.

Seeking solutions is the first step toward finally realizing the amazing relationship that you deserve.
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